April 2016

Saying no

For the first 31 years of my life I said yes. Yes to projects, yes to relationships, yes to degree after degree after degree, yes to clutter and knick knacks, yes to small talk, yes to abuse and violence and yes to taking on the suffering of others. I was raised by a yes person in a yes family and I never wanted to say no because of it. That desire to conform with something that I knew in every ounce of my being did not co-exist with who I am brought me nothing but people, relationships, and systems that took from me.