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Ferguson

So many have written and asked my thoughts on Ferguson and I have delayed long enough, although to be completely real I do not want to share my opinion at all. What I have to say couldn't be more obvious. The discussion is so deeply complicated a large part of me doesn't think that anyone's...

Beautiful

Hating the way I look in photographs has been a longterm part time job for me. Getting dressed and looking in the mirror is doable, having my picture taken less than 3 seconds later produces an image I can't swallow.

There have been countless plausible reasons I have arrived at for this...

Jealousy

Lately, rushes of envy have barraged me. Jealousy is my least favorite emotion...which I have found is not unlike many of my clients. I have worked with clients that have hurt themselves or others very badly driven by feelings of envy. The first time we feel this deeply visceral response is...

Which one of these just doesn't belong?

This morning in our usual early shift briefing meeting at work I looked around my office and saw all men. All different levels of men that I supervise, all different ages but all significantly older than me, all different sizes but most of them very large and muscular. Several of them tower over...

Lentils

Sitting at the Thanksgiving table this week, my family began to tell stories about what a "picky" eater I was as a child. The list grew longer, and as they added they giggled and laughed more. No white foods, no sauces, no condiments, nothing with any type of texture to it, no carbonation, no...

No way to make 'em

After compassionately listening to some long-winded, likely dramatic family story several years ago, an old friend told me, "people only do what they want to do, there is no way to make 'em do anything." At the time, I was just finishing my doctoral degree in psychology and was certain that...

Thankful

Clearly I am getting older. As this Thanksgiving approaches I am struck by how many times this year I sat back grateful for the opportunity to live another day. Although this is such a simple and obvious blessing it is the only one I am certain of having.

Ten years ago, five years ago...

Willingness is all we need

Supporting others to make lasting changes can be discouraging, and then there are the moments where I have the privilege of witnessing a client change their way of being. Truly there is nothing more rewarding. Having a client come to me, smiling from within, beaming with pride and joy,...

Trauma

Recently, every training I have been to touches on the negative effects of trauma. All of the colleagues I work with discuss the trauma's of their clients. My friends, clients, family and myself included, it seems like everyone is talking about trauma. We even now are starting to talk about...

Sleeping in

As a little girl, it was deeply instilled in me that best daily practices is early to bed, early to rise. As phases of my life have required different schedules, (i.e. graduate school, night shift work, being on call), I have fought the internal message that sleeping in late suggests poor...

The edge

Driving down the road yesterday, I heard a familiar internal command, "put on some music and relax." That is my cue that I am approaching an experience that is stress inducing. For as long as I can remember, music has been an effective coping skill to reduce my nerves; music always helps me...

Relapse

Reflecting, I wonder how many times I have restated the phrase, "Relapse is a part of recovery". Possibly 500 times...maybe I have repeated it one thousand times, or ten thousand times? With certainty, I definitely utter it at least one time per day, sometimes several.

Substance abuse...